Why women have extramarital affairs?
Chat about a loaded issue that no one wants to talk about, that’s it. Amusing thing, extramarital affairs have been going on from the beginning of the world. Extramarital relationships can be fraught with problems, cause misery, and other troubles. In addition you must wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness thing, money, age difference, faith background, remorse, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I will classify an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, dating wives.
Why do people have extramarital affairs? There are as many answers as there are man seeking woman for affair. I am conserned mostly though it is just the human state, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a few explanations I have run across.
Biologically we as humans are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and fun, and sex makes us get away the world for a small period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Someone are able to switch the craving on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another person, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos humanity has erected against married dating. For lots of people the yearnings will overcome their worries and make them risk the anger of not only their family, but the public too. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is terribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not injure your relatives or anyone else? You will need to minimize the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the largest group, huge actually. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, but they are happy in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the children to consider. Your savings are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live as a family besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that stop them implementing the sex performance, at least not with their othere half. An extra-marital affair sometimes solves the trouble while keeping the marriage undamaged.
Avoidance, sadly this is a regular reason I fear. One or the other, usually the husband is sexually neglecting his lady for a number of reasons. As a male I actually am grateful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them available to us males of romance, making them “milfs” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but evil.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, maybe caring is vanished, maybe it is the closeness, could be neglect. Maybe we have just grown distantly, our relulas concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is opposed to of what you want. Could be I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they seek the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for economic gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.